"Stop Trying to Be Happy"
Dr. Corey Keyes is one of the leading researchers on human flourishing.
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Dr. Corey Keyes is a recently retired professor in sociology from Emory University, one of the leading researches on the science of flourishing, and the author of the book Languishing. He was one of the founders of the positive psychology movement and the first professor to teach a for-credit university course on happiness.
In this episode we discuss the growing state of languishing in our society, the overemphasis on happiness, the ingredients for flourishing, and the importance of changing the stories we tell about our lives. See the top takeaways below.
Episode Highlights (~1.5 Minutes, Full Episode Linked Above)
Top Takeaways
The Growing State of Languishing:
Dr. Keyes explains languishing as a formal diagnosis characterized by the absence of positive and meaningful life aspects such as direction, meaning, contribution, and belonging. He notes that the pandemic has exacerbated this state, with more people experiencing languishing than ever before.Overemphasis on Happiness:
According to Dr. Keyes, society places too much emphasis on happiness as the ultimate goal. He argues that happiness should not be pursued in isolation but should stem from a life filled with meaning, purpose, and connection. Happiness derived from superficial sources is unsustainable and akin to a non-nutritious diet.Ingredients for Flourishing:
Flourishing involves more than just feeling good. It requires functioning well in areas such as self-acceptance, purpose, personal growth, positive relationships, and social contribution. Dr. Keyes outlines five key activities for flourishing: helping others, continuous learning, engaging in spiritual or religious practices, connecting with others, and participating in active leisure.Invitation to Change the Stories We Tell:
Dr. Keyes emphasizes the need to shift our cultural narratives away from individualistic success and towards stories of overcoming significant setbacks and transforming adversity into something meaningful. He believes that telling and sharing these stories can inspire others and foster a culture of flourishing.
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Full List of Topics Covered
Defining languishing and flourishing
The impact of the pandemic on mental health
The distinction between feelings and functioning in well-being
The historical context of happiness and its philosophical roots
The importance of social and psychological well-being
Practical steps to transition from languishing to flourishing
The role of cultural stories in shaping our perceptions of success and well-being
Personal anecdotes and insights from Dr. Keyes' journey
Hope you enjoy the conversation. Feel free to share and let me know if anything resonates with you in the comments.
-Adam
This is sick, Big A.